Before we got married, we had friends…even of the opposite
sex. What happens to those friends of
the opposite sex after we get married? Do we tell our spouse about them ALL? Is
this important? Will there be consequences if we don’t mention them all?
I recently got talking with a friend (opposite sex) of mine
and we had this conversation. He wanted to know how it affects a female if she
finds out about female friends of her spouse she did not know about and he
wondered if every guy thought it was compulsory for them to know of all their
spouse’s male friends. Ok, I truly do not know because I happen to have loads
of acquaintances….maybe not necessarily friends, who are guys and my spouse do
not know of. This is not because I kept it a secret but we just have not gisted
to that side. The ones he knows about was not because I felt I MUST inform him
but we have gisted to that side. I do not feel the need to know of all his
female friends either.
My usual style, I took a survey for this. More people
thought it was not compulsory to know of their spouse’s friends of the opposite
sex. More of these people, actually have friends of the opposite sex who their
spouse do not know about. What weird me out and actually cracked me up was that
we have more females who, even though have male friends their spouse do not
know of, believing the HAVE to know of all their spouse’s female friends! Loool.
My breed though! I just love us. Only one guy held this view.
Do you suddenly hear an alarm in your head whenever you
discover an opposite sex friend of your spouse? Is there a reason you would
want to know of all of them? I would love to read from you. Do share your views
with other readers.
Lol! I personally am all for ignorance is bliss! That said I suspose it does depend what kind of friends we're talking about - work friends, old school friends, new hang out after work friends, business partner friend etc. It really depends on the context then we'd review the situation, I think!
ReplyDeleteNaturally women are more curious when it comes to issues like this. As a man, I do have some female friends that my spouse is not aware of unless I talk about them for whatever reason. Likewise, I don't have to know all her friends male or female. "What is it that I misplaced that I'm looking for?"
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