Saturday 8 December 2012
YOU WERE CAUGHT CHEATING-WHAT’S YOUR EXCUSE?
I always wonder what makes people cheat on their spouses, irrespective of sex. Most people would conveniently say absence of adequate attention, unfulfilled sex life, financial imbalance, sudden change in appearance/attitude of the spouse.
However, if we look around properly, we might likely see a few cheating spouses who do not have any of the above as an excuse. It now bothers to say, what could be the reason for cheating? Sincerely now, if we did not have religion or morals, how easy is it to be with one person continuously for a long period of time? You wake up with the same person every day, eat with same, come back and sleep with same.
Could it simply be the human nature for desire for something new? Or just a greedy nature? Maybe lack of trust? If it is the non-sexual cheating, it is very likely to have one of the already stated excuses above as a reason. However, for the sexual cheating, one wonders as it still all boils down to one thing- penis goes into the vagina-just maybe from various angle.
Maybe I am missing something here. Otherwise, it could be safe to say some people just lack morals or they are sex addicts. Trying to split it now, for the female, the male organ naturally should feel the same within when erect no matter the size or shape and as long as orgasm is attainable, there should not be any reason for sexual cheating.
As for the males, hmmm, truly? I cannot pretend to have the full understanding of that. It's crazy right? Think about it though, what separates us from animals? The ability to have a choice and decide what is right or wrong. We cannot throw morals away and snatch silly excuses when we do wrong. Whatever the reason, I believe for a communicating couple, it should be attainable between them if they really try. Or could there be some things communications cannot change?
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From the moral and religion point of view, cheating on ones spouse cannot be justified. But being humans that we are, we err some times and the feeling of tasting or eating something different from a regular meal set in. All the same we can work on things that make us cheat.
ReplyDeleteI saw this 'when there's love, faithfulness should not be a sacrifice, it should be a thing of joy.
Dotsman
Humans unfortunately are hardly content. There are indeed couples who regardless of having it all, they still crave for more.
ReplyDeleteA friend says that he can,t be committed to one woman sexually even though his happily married. He can't explain why, he just says its d only way he can balance it.
All i can say is confused.com
Sex is a few minutes of pleasure, and if n when you take the bold step of committing yourself to another then faithfulness is part of the package. You can not eat your cake and have it.
Religion plays no role here, morals yes. My rule is simple. You cheat you step. There is no greater sin in a marriage then CHEATING.
Cheating on one's spouse is probably prehistoric but I dare say its assumed bolder dimensions as a result of today's society becoming more liberal and things that were condemnable are now more excusable.I can imagine how hard it must be to live or have to live with the same person all of one's lifetime. Evidence of this 'fact' abounds a lot more in the developed West and this has not been helped by the desire to follow in the footsteps of our adored celebrities. I find women culpable the more and even the reasons why they claim for cheating the more ridiculous - ranging from material and many other superficial reasons. Finally, I will say rather than cheat, get a divorce!
ReplyDeleteIntergrity versus Infidelity.
ReplyDeleteIts said that a man never intended to be monogamus, despite taking a vow to be commited.
Inevitably most cheaters are found out, which results in fallouts. Sometimes the couples are able to committed to healing their relstionship. But the back log of emotional damage n betrayal is irreparable, especially when the hurt partner is unable to regain the trust and emotional safety required to be intimate.
With all of this at stake, you must be mad to take such a risk. I know its said a man won't go outside if he gets what he needs at home same can be said for a woman. But what then can we blame when you get everything needed at home but fail to keep your pants on?
Ladies instead of that shame n stigma get a VIABRATOR, its cheaper. Guys whilst i personally don't like it, (watch porn) spice your sex life at home. Turn your maybe boring sex life to a hot n can't do without life. Something to look forward to at the end of work and every given free time.
There is nothing wrong with you running home for a quickie with your partner, go to a hotel. Keep it interesting, keep it ALIVE.
Well, the male stock has more attraction to adventures.Getting caught is another thing entirely and it means the person must have been indulging in it for a time for an error of being caught to happen.It also means that he has not perfected his acts. SIMPLE - NO EXCUSE !Just repent and stop the risky enjoyment. There is nobody that does not like GOOD sex if it is actually GOOD. You then tend to seek for it outside the recommended circle. Once you are caught , just apologise and stop it. The issue now is whether your partner can give you the GOOD SEX as at when you need it ! Another topic for another day !
ReplyDelete@Ayo what happens when the sex at home is top notch n still you go out? Or as of when you are caught your partner is unable to forgive you?
DeleteThe whole point of this is. * why take d risk* Good sex ca be gotten at home too, even better sex n its cheaper too. So what would b your excuse for cheating?
My Pastor told us years ago " do not go fighting d woman who is said to be sleeping with your husband" observe her n do as she does, wear the mini skirts, the make-up n brazillian hair. If n when your husband complains you tell him why you have choosen to change your style.
Look no one is saying marriage n all its package isn't hard, as for us women we need to keep up appearances, don't turn into logs bcos u are married.
Brothers, the money you lavish on that " Ayangba " splash it on your wife, and it will be the best investment ever.
Cheating is too high a prize.
+ or - being spiritual it's not right,Bad is Bad.facing reality of life,Variety really is spice.dats y DSTV have lots of channels,dats y we av lots of food stuffs in d kitchen.its food but tastes diff. So for females d 5**k feels same but d individual in question has skills dat anoda doesn't have.Long throat is d word,wen u want to taste anoda him or her.click
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